You are Strong!

I’m realizing there are reoccurring themes in parenting.
We teach and hope and teach and pray and teach a principle to one child.
We see progress … slow sometimes… but progress.

Then … BAM! the next child is in that same phase.
Teach & hope & Teach & Pray & Teach some more.

BAM! … next child. etc.

And then we realize that the child who has progressed helps to teach the younger ones.

Example:
Teaching a young child that he is responsible for his choices and his feelings.
You cannot blame everyone else for your circumstance.
Child whines, child complains… about homework, chores, dinner, etc.
Child loses privileges.
Child has a larger tantrum and blames everyone around him for making him sad.
“You cannot blame others for your choices.” was the advice the elder sibling gave.

ah-ha. interesting!
So perhaps life lessons teach.
Sometimes we are being blamed… sometimes we blame.
I think we become wiser when we are blamed for something we realize was their own choice.
(Recent Example from 4th Grade Bully: “Way to go… it’s your fault I was suspended from school.”
Response: “It was not my fault. It was your choices that led to this consequence.”)

Another reoccurring parenting theme is STRENGTH & COURAGE.

“Be Strong!” is a phrase I say often as a child leaves the house.

Be Strong when choosing friends.
Be Strong and be yourself.
Be Strong and control your choices, instead of being willing to let others bully you.
Be Strong and choose the right.
Be Strong for God is with thee!

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For another child who doesn’t want to do any chore …
or homework… or toss diapers into the garbage …
or is too scared to walk by puppies or kitty cats …
because it’s too scary or hard or gross…
I say,
“Heavenly Father made you STRONG.
You can do hard things.
He made you amazing and courageous.
God made you a part of our family because we need you.”

There are so many kinds of strength.
Spiritual Strength (I choose faith!)
Physical Health & Strength (“You must do the thing you think you cannot do”)
Mental Strength (optimism vs pessimism)
Emotional Strength (I rely on the Atonement for comfort, courage, and strength)
etc.

Strength to stand for the right in a school full of Mormons.
Courage to walk by the cat on the way to the bus.
Strength to be alone rather than being with bullies or brats.
Courage to do hard things every single day!
Strength to ignore insults at church or scouts.
Courage to be unique.
Strength to be a leader instead of a follower.

Kinda random…. but these are the thoughts for the day. Saw this quote today and loved it.

“But no one except Lucy knew that as it circled the mast it had whispered to her, “Courage, dear heart,” and the voice, she felt sure, was Aslan’s, and with the voice a delicious smell breathed in her face.” ― The Voyage of the Dawn Treader

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God is with us when we choose that path.
His Holy Spirit whispers, “Courage, dear heart”,
when He knows we need strength.

I pray so much that my children will have
strength of character,
strength of faith,
and strength of wise choices
to guide them on this journey.

Doubt your Doubts

Doubt Your DoubtsWas reminded of this quote this week. This principle is grand! Faith is so simple, but I think I make it complicated sometimes.

WHAT IS FAITH? Mormon.org
“To have faith is to “hope for things which are not seen, which are true” (Alma 32:21). Each day you act upon things you hope for, even before you see the end result. This is similar to faith. To have faith in God is to trust Him, to have confidence in Him, and to be willing to act on your belief in Him. It is a principle of action and power.”

In the Finding Faith in Christ movie, one of the disciples said, “Faith is knowing that good will come of whatever happens to us.” I believe this is a simple way of thinking of it… as we keep God’s commandments and strive to listen to the Holy Spirit, we can know that eternally, all will be well.

Anyhoo… random… but has just been on my mind lately and I wanted to record it.

An Invitation to Become AWESOME!

Work

General R.S. Broadcast change Announced

My Mom & I went to the General R.S. Broadcast on Sept 28, 2013. Turns out it’s the last General R.S. Broadcast ever! Who knew!? I have gone a few times since we have lived in Utah and I love going with my mom!IMG_20130928_180827
Today they announced a combined women’s meeting for girls age 8 and older. This will be really neat! Just a change. But now Hannah can join my mom and I on our traditional yearly broadcast run to SLC! Hurrah!Screen Shot 2013-11-04 at 8.49.12 PMHmmm… I was going to share my favorite notes from this last R.S. Broadcast, but my notes & journal cannot be found. And that probably tells more about me than having my notes to share. Sigh…

The power of a primary teacher

IMG_20131103_205354Truman really wanted me to take a picture of him standing on the rock outside our church building. He is shaking his musical instrument given to him by his primary teachers, the Lovelace family. Today I am so very grateful for wonderful primary teachers. Brother & Sister Lovelace are so sweet. They have 3 children under 3 and they were asked to teach Sunbeams. Bless them forever!

They are so nice about Truman and seem to appreciate his strengths. I love how positive they are. They are proactive with the kids, they sing, they seem to make the very best of their calling. I’m so thankful! I told his teachers how much Truman loves noise-makers. He had told them that he liked to drum (this really means hitting any type of stick on any other surface to listen to the different sounds). He LOVED this little rice shaker. I’m glad they went above and beyond and that it connected with little Tru!

My other children have had teachers who ‘bless their hearts’ weren’t as “into” their calling as a parent of a primary child would hope. Now, as a parent, I’m realizing what a great influence teachers can have. I have never had a calling as a primary teacher (only in the Primary presidency – and that’s very different). And honestly, I think it would be a hard calling. Hard to not have any down time decompressing in Relief Society! Not that church is social time, but it is nice to get to chat with other adults occasionally in the hall. Primary is also hard because you always have to be on your toes. Preparation helps so much!

Jimmy and I are substituting Max’s primary class for 3 weeks. Ummm yah… today I just threw the lesson together. Not my best effort. Preparation! So, I’ve decided that should I ever get called as a primary teacher I want to the be kind of primary teacher who cares, remembers names, birthdays, notices the shy, the quiet, loves the struggling.  One who sings the songs, teaches pure doctrine, uses the scriptures, bears testimony, helps the children recognize the Holy Ghost.  I have had friends who put their whole heart into helping their Primary class love the Gospel – from Sunbeams to CTR 9.  Great examples to me!

I was researching a few thoughts about the importance of primary teachers and came across these gems:

As families we say to each other, “Take my hand. Hold on tight. We will stay on the path together back to our Heavenly Father.”

As a Primary Teacher ask:
What do I love about my calling?
What is the purpose of Primary?
How can we help strengthen families?
How can we help children develop strong testimonies and draw nearer to Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ?

We want every child to know they are children of God and He loves them; that Heavenly Father has a plan, the plan of salvation, and it includes families; and that through our Savior, Jesus Christ, we can stay on the path back to Heavenly Father. {Rosemary M. Wixom, Primary General President – 2011 Primary Auxiliary Training Meeting}

“It is the small and simple things we do that often make the biggest difference.” I love this message shared about a young man who knew the Articles of Faith… had been taught and strengthened when he was young… and he was able to defend our Faith! Standing Strong PDF

“Many bishops in the Church are inspired to call the strongest people in the ward to serve individual children in the Primary. They realize that if the children are strengthened with faith and testimony, they will be less likely to need rescue as teenagers. They realize that a strong spiritual foundation can make the difference for a lifetime.” Henry B. Eyring – April 2010 (Help them on their Way)

Peaceability

Screen Shot 2013-11-03 at 7.34.26 AMScreen Shot from Power of Moms. The past week… not so great on the Peacability front. I think I failed at most of my goals… visiting teaching, birthday dinner 3 days late, keeping calm, eating loads of sugar, loving, carrying on, finances. Bleh.

But it’s a new week… a new month. Icky Halloween is over. November is a great month! Thanksgiving, gratitude, sweaters, anticipation of Christmas. Peaceability (I’m thinking they made this word up!) goes right along with the season. My goal: Keep peace in my heart even amidst family chaos (is it possible to not have chaos at this point in life… I do wish).

I started reading a book on Kindle last night: Loving the Little Years: Motherhood in the Trenches [Rachel Jankovic]. The first paragraph… I love:
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I saw this picture on pinterest and it seemed a dead link so I’m sorry i don’t have a source. But this seems like life… there might be grey and storms … but there is always hope… always sunshine somewhere with Christ’s light. Onward, ever onward!
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John 3:16

for god so loved the worldWe read this scripture out loud as a family tonight during scripture study. What a precious truth! God loves each of us so very much… so much that he would sacrifice His Son that we might have eternal LIFE. So grateful for this knowledge! We are loved!

Truth & Wisdom

I’ve been in a stew about several issues lately… one being Common Core Curriculum & grading going on at the school this year. In such a stew that I’ve considered home schooling – this is serious! I hear so many different sides to Common Core… confidence in, good, bad, & horrible. Which is the truth? I can’t help distrust anything released under the current U.S. leadership. I need to investigate & educate myself to find out the real scoop as best I can, but I’ve also felt pulled in different directions mentally on this… Reminds me of Joseph Smith as a youth.TRUTH & WISDOM1I am so grateful for the Holy Ghost to guide us on so many issues. We can trust that we will not be led astray if we follow those promptings.TRUTH & WISDOM

p.s. also in a stew about the government. It’s about to implode… really! And China knows it!  I don’t even know anything about politics, but I can sense great discord & distrust in national politics. Obamacare is the tip of the iceberg. And Utah – I’m afraid their government leaders aren’t inspiring much confidence either. sigh… press forward with a steadfastness in Christ… having a perfect brightness of hope!

Faith in Every Footstep

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So hey… I was so glad to get to attend the temple on Thursday. Jimmy stayed home with the tots as he had gone to the temple early in the week during work (so cool to be right by the Salt Lake Temple!). He had a busy night picking up Abe, making dinner, taking 5 tots to the pediatrician while 2 got flu shots, got kids in bed, and helped Abe with his last-minute county report start to finish! Phew. He’s cooler than I am to do that alone.

The Temple was great… and not too crowded this time. I love that we can be taught and inspired there. These were a few thoughts that came to mind.

strengthen thee help thee

choose faith over fear

I saw this one by Winston Churchill a few weeks ago. I love the principle of moving forward in FAITH together as a couple, as a family, as friends, as a church or community. So grateful for good people around me who help my faith grow!
let us go forward together

Deliberate Mothers Principles

Just read a great reminder from April Perry about Deliberate Mothers. Wanted to keep this for my record.

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I love the 4 suggestions:
(1) Deliberate mothers read, watch, and listen to uplifting things that can reach the “real” person inside.
I was thinking about how i’ve been reading online news lately… ksl & foxnews. I somehow think I need to be informed to prepare for what’s ahead in the world. But mostly it just drags down. I think spending 5 minutes reading the scriptures would be more uplifting. I’m sure I’ll hear about anything major that happens so the reminder to SEEK OUT THE BEST THINGS is a good one.

(2) Deliberate mothers tell the best part of their stories.
Remember yesterday. Not my best day. Focused on the HARD. Tried to recoup by remembering BLESSINGS. But – trying harder today to focus on the right thing to begin with. Keepin’ it real includes tell the best part of life! Love that!

(3) Deliberate mothers remind themselves of what is important every single day.
This one is tricky. I spend a lot of time thinking… but I don’t always keep the top priorities at the top of my mind. Quotes, scriptures, uplifting music helps me stay on track with mothering and duty.

(4) Deliberate mothers surround themselves with like-minded mothers.
Oh – love this! I’ve been thinking this summer how blessed I am to have friends who I can turn to for advice and a listening ear. I love that there are people in my life who understand parenting children at this time. I love the support and encouragement I receive from these sweet gals. Ward friends, school-parent friends, random friends, friends from AZ, FL, & TN, high school friends. So great to have good women to talk with!